Most couples know if their sex life is fantastic or outright bad, but it can be harder to recognize when it's merely satisfactory but not very exciting. It's important to learn the more subtle signs your sex life is suffering, though, because then you can nip it in the bud before it goes completely downhill. Many couples slip into routines without even realizing their sex lives aren't as good as they used to be.
First of all, though, don't worry just because your sex life doesn't match what you see in porn or read in romance novels. "Do you expect sex to be as romantic, sensual and hiccup-free as it is in the movies?" Astroglide's resident sexologist "Dr. Jess" O'Reilly tells Bustle. "If so, you had better hire a set designer, director, a few assistants, lighting staff, and flutters." Most people wouldn't rate their sex lives a 10 out of 10, she says.
Still, there's always room for improvement, as long as you're making these improvements because you genuinely want to see changes in your sex life (as opposed to feeling inadequate). Here are some subtle signs your sex life may be suffering and what you can do about it.