There are a number of different reasons for wanting to cancel a date. Maybe something came up at work and you just can't make it. Maybe you're not feeling well, or maybe you're just not feeling it anymore. Regardless of the reason for wanting to back out of plans, it's important to give your date a head's up. Although cancelling a date over text can seem intimidating, it doesn't have to be. According to experts, it's all about being honest.
"I ask my clients, what is your intention in cancelling the date?" David Strah, licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. "Is it because something simply came up, or is it because you don’t think the person is right for you? Regardless, my general rule of thumb when cancelling a date with someone is the Golden Rule — treat someone as you would like them to treat you."
Even if it's a lot less stressful to ghost someone you're not that interested in, that's the last thing you should do. Unless someone has done something really offensive to you, Strah says it's important to include at least these three things in your cancellation text: be gracious, be clear about your intentions, and wish them well. After all, wouldn't you want them to do the same to you?
According to experts, the type of text you should send depends on the situation. So here's how you can cancel a date over text, based on the situation you're in.