Like most women in a LTR, I can usually tell when my boyfriend lies. His nostrils will nervously dance, his pupils will enlarge, and — key giveaway — he'll laugh out loud. At this point, my boyfriend, like most men, believes he's gotten away with it. But while he may think that I had no idea that he'd cleverly hid a whole box of chocolate-covered doughnuts underneath his side of the bed (true story), little did he know, I was already closing the case.
While this specific incident may not happen in every relationships, it would be an #alternativefact to say that men don't lie to their significant others for some of the strange reasons. So why exactly do men to choose to lie about such interesting things?
To help answer this mystifying question, I connected with licensed professional counselor Jeremy McAllister over email to see what his thoughts were on this matter.
"Lying happens for a whole variety of reasons. We lie to protect ourselves, to protect others, to avoid punishment, to preserve a relationship, to trigger separation or elicit attention, to get someone back, to make them understand how it feels, or just out of boredom or forgetfulness. As it is more likely, in this culture, for men to land on the avoidant side (back to this theme of attachment for both articles), avoidant strategies tend to amplify work stress or time constraints as a way to justify their need for space and alone time (a genuine, legitimate need that is often not respected by someone on the anxious end of attachment)," McAllister says.
In any case, finding out that someone lied to you simply sucks. But instead of getting into a screaming match, it's helpful to find out why they did it in the first place. Here are seven interesting things men often lie about to women.