Growing up is hard, and I’m not just taking about puberty. Well into adulthood, as you come into your own, you may realize that to be yourself, you have to disappoint others. It’s all part of being a grown-ass woman. "Learning to be self-sufficient is an important lesson for success in life," therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle. "Feeling confident in your abilities and truly knowing who you are as an individual are very beneficial, especially before entering a serious relationship or having children. Feeling secure with one's self leads the person to be more available to others, to be more present in life, and to have more positivity."
Being grown-up and self-sufficient also means doing scary things. It means speaking up when your voice is shaking, pushing yourself to do things you don't feel ready for, and taking more than you feel you deserve — because the more you do these things, the less your voice will shake, the more things you will feel ready for, and the more you'll think you deserve. Sometimes, you've got to fake it til you make it.
Here are some things every grown-ass woman should learn to do at some point, no matter how intimidating they are.