7 Relationship Insecurities You Shouldn't Have After Your First Year Together

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Everyone comes into relationships with insecurities. Maybe you're worried that your partner won't be faithful or that they won't have the same sense of humor as you. But there are some insecurities that you've hopefully overcome by your first year of being together as a result of your growing connection, and the trust you have built. Because as experts say, if you still have major insecurities in your relationship after the first year, your relationship might not last.

As licensed marriage and family therapist, Anna Osborn, MA, tells Bustle, one of the biggest insecurities you probably shouldn't still have is trust. "A healthy relationship is meant to grow and deepen in connection and trust as time passes," Osborn says. "If you’re finding yourself still insecure about trusting your partner or uncertain about opening up and being vulnerable, then you need to give your relationship pause."

After a year together, she says, you shouldn’t have to be insecure about whether you can count on your partner to follow through on their word. This is something that should be well established by this point. "If insecurities regarding trust and intimacy are plaguing your relationship, they must be addressed in order for the relationship to be successful," she says. If not, it will "significantly stunt the relationship."

So how do overcome this major insecurity so your relationship can be happy and healthy moving forward? Communicate and practice patience. "Talking to your partner in an open and non-confrontational manner about your insecurities is a positive first step," Osborn says. "Your relationship should be one that reassures your insecurities, not increases them."

Insecurity due to trust issues is a major thing to overcome. But it isn't the only thing. So if these other things still make you feel insecure by your first year, experts say you may have some issues to discuss.