It can seem like a bit of a learning curve when you're having sex with someone new. First, there's the sense of the unknown and the lack of experience with this person — but it's also the fact that what works with one partner doesn't always translate into another.
If you're having sex with someone new for the first time, it can make a huge difference if you touch base about sex and your preferences with a quick conversation first. "Assess your expectations and align them with your partner," Dr. Michael Reitano, MD, physician in residence at sexual health startup Roman, tells Bustle. "Talking about sex doesn't have to be a dry conversation about logistics. The truth is the preparation for sex allows the participants to begin to imagine what is to come and build positive sexual tension all while stressful details are shed."
Once you have a sense of each other, the sex itself serves as a time to experiment, negotiate, and feel each other out. If you're feeling anxious, pick great sex positions where you feel comfortable and supported — that don't involve anything too fancy. Here's what you can try.