When it comes to getting ready for bed, chances are you and your partner have a little routine down. And it's not one that you should neglect, because bonding right before sleep is important.
"Before going to bed we recommend always giving each other a
compliment and a kiss," Emily Lyons, CEO of Lyons Elite Matchmaking and Dating Consultancy firm, tells Bustle. "End the day happy and loved, no matter what took place earlier. They say never go to bed angry, and there is scientific proof that supports that. Putting that last happy, good-feeling memory into your mind will strengthen your bond more than you know."
And another great way to do it is with a pre-bedtime sex session. If you've got the energy, you'll be setting yourself up for some lovely, intimate time before you drift off to sleep. I get that you might be feeling tired before bed, so you might not be swinging from the chandeliers. But that doesn't mean that you can't have an intense, intimate sex session without feeling like you've run a marathon. It's all about picking out the positions that are going to feel interesting and close, but without breaking a sweat. Here are the best sex positions for right before bed:
How To Do It: Lay facing your partner with your hips higher up than theirs. Wrapping your top leg over their hip, pull yourself toward them as you guide them inside you. It's tight, so you may need lube. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: A nice gentle position to make that oh-so important connection before bed. There's intimacy and great stimulation. How To Do It: When your partner sits cross-legged on the bed you should lower yourself gently onto them, until they're inside you and you can wrap your legs and arms around them in a giant hug. Then, just focus on grinding and enjoy the sensation. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: It's relaxing and close, but it's also got deep penetration. It's simple without being boring. How To Do It: Lay in the spooning position, but make sure your pelvis is higher up than your partner's. Once you get comfortable it's great for G-spot stimulation but also clit play, nipple play, even some sexy talking. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: I mean, it's basically the ultimate sleeping position — just while having sex. I don't need to explain why it's an amazing combo. How To Do It: Straddle your partner and lower yourself down. Though this can be a very active position, try throwing yourself forward and focus on close grinding. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: This variation is intense without a lot of effort, so you get to be in control but still have that cozy, pre-bed feeling. How To Do It: Your partner lays on their side while you lay on your back, but perpendicular to your partner. Then inch yourself down the bed — hooking your knees over your partner — until you can guide them inside you. Then they can focus on easy thrusting. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: Just because you want something relaxed doesn't mean it has to be boring. This is a sexy twist with great views for both of you, but you can just lay back and enjoy... and use that spare hand for some clitoral stimulation. How To Do It: Either start in missionary or start with your partner on their knees with your legs resting on their chest. They should slowly lift up — you may need lube— into a comfortable position for both of you, with their hands around your butt to help steady you. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: It's deep — really deep — but also can be slow and controlled. You should get the intensity without feeling overwhelmed. How To Do It: Any variation will do. Go for coital alignment technique, move your legs up, or try a pillow under your lower back. Just enjoy the close connection. Why It's Bedtime-Approved: Hey, sometimes when it's late you just want to go with a classic. It's intimate, deep, and there are tons of variations. And chances are, you already know just how you like it, so it's a perfect position to enjoy before bed.
Even if you're feeling low-energy, it can be great to have sex and really connect just before bed. It'll set you both up for a great night's sleep.