7 Difficult Sex Positions That Are Actually Worth The Effort

I'm not one who's into getting into advanced sex positions just for the hell of it. It's why you'll pretty much never find me game for shower sex — it's too much bruising and not enough payoff. But that doesn't mean I want to have the same sex over and over, either. I mean, I have a favorite sex position (doesn't everyone?) but I like to mix it up. And there are some positions that may be a little tricky to get into (or work your upper body better than a thousand vinyasas) but are totally worth it for the payoff.

If you find the idea of getting into a new position a little daunting, try talking it out with your partner beforehand. It sounds ridiculous, but you can even try getting into the position fully clothed (and not the least bit turned on) and do a non-sexy run-through so you know what you're actually doing in the middle. You'll look silly but you can have a giggle and get some confidence for giving it a try for real. Talking about it is also a good way to find out what you're both looking for, whether it's a new sensation, a new power dynamic, a new view— once you know what you'd like to mix up you can figure out what to try next.

But to get you started, here are seven positions that might take a time or two to master, but are totally worth it:

1. The Side Straddle

How To Do It: Have your partner lie down with one knee slightly lifted, then shift in so you're straddling that leg. Once you've guided them inside you, focus on slow up and down motions and grinding.

Why It's Worth It: There's something sexy and animalistic about positions where you're facing away from your partner. This one gives that idea (and a good view of your bum) but with a slower pace than something like doggy.

2. Butterfly

How To Do It: Lie on a bed or table, anything that is a bit lower than your partner's pelvis. Lift your legs up toward his shoulders, and either by hooking them or having your partner help hold your hips, lift them a few inches of the bed. If you find this difficult, use a pillow to prop your hips up.

Why It's Worth It: Being a bit up in the air makes it feel precarious, in a fun way. Plus, your partner is stable enough to really go for it, while you get a great view.

3. The Sofa Brace

How To Do It: Less difficult to get into than some of the others, it's traditional doggy but you drape yourself over the side of a couch and brace however is most comfortable. Then your partner comes in behind.

Why It's Worth It: It's like doggy, but you get the extra support and either of you can go for the clit. But mostly I just like different ways to do it outside of the bedroom.

4. The Bridge

How To Do It: It's just like in yoga class but way more fun. Have your partner sit back on their heels while you place your feet flat and raise your hips, then they can raise up to meet you, using your hips to grasp while thrusting.

Why It's Worth It: Deep. G-spot stimulation. Clit availability. Seriously, what's not to love?

5. The Crab Walk

How To Do It: You're going to look a little ridiculous. You basically both get in the crab position, then you move closer to your partner, raise your hips up to the appropriate position and guide them inside you. But once you're there it should be comfortable for both of you.

Why It's Worth It: The view, for one. If you or your partner are turned on by watching, this gives you both an opportunity to take a look. It's all good for deep, slow penetration.

6. The Cross

How To Do It: Your partner lies on their side while you lie perpendicular to them with your legs over their side, then shuffle downward and help guide them inside of you.

Why It's Worth It: It's something totally different. It's a view of your partner you probably won't get in any other position, and also a completely different angle of entry. Plus, either of you can get in on some clit action.

7. X Marks The Spot

How To Do It: You lie down somewhere that's about pelvis height for them. Start with your legs spread and then, after they stand in between, raise them up and cross at the ankles.

Why It's Worth It: It's. Super. Tight. Any position where you can get your legs crossed but they can still get inside you ensures a tight fit. So it's great if your partner is on the smaller side, but also makes it great for anyone.

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