7 Signs Your Long-Term Partner Isn’t Taking Your Relationship Seriously

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After you've been with someone for a while, you would think you'd eventually be able to tell where you stand as a couple, as well as whether or not your partner is serious about the relationship. But sometimes, it's not so easy to tell. Not all people are great at communicating what they want, and misunderstandings can pile up along the way. And before you know it, things are all sorts of confusing.

But unless you've had a convo about where you stand, what else can you really expect? "If you're wanting a committed relationship then you have to advocate for that," Eliza Boquin, MA, LMFT, owner of The Relationship & Sexual Wellness Center, tells Bustle. "You can't assume that the other person is on the same page."

So go ahead and have that all-important convo and see how they respond. "If they get frustrated, defensive, or avoid the topic, you may have your answer right here," Boquin says. You might also notice that the same issues keep cropping up over and over again. Maybe they seem to ditch you for friends more often than you'd like. Or maybe when they talk about the future, they never mention how you'll factor into it. Subtle signs like these can tip you off that's it's time to talk. And you really owe that to yourself, and the relationship. Here are a few more ways experts say it may be possible to tell if your partner is taking the relationship seriously.