9 "Awkward" Things You And Your Partner Can Do To Feel Emotionally Safe In Your Relationship

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A deep and meaningful relationship doesn't just happen out of nowhere. Unlike passion and attraction that can be felt instantly, it takes time and effort to reach a point of emotional safety in a relationship. If you and your partner are willing to do a few very important and somewhat awkward things, you can have a deep emotional connection that's meant to last.

Emotional safety in a relationship is important for a number of reasons, but one matters most of all. According to research on the neuroscience and power of safe relationships by Stephen Porges, Ph.D., emotional safety is one the most important components of a satisfying romantic connection.

"If you feel emotionally safe in your relationship, you are able to express your emotions without fear of being ridiculed or shamed," Amy McManus, licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. "You may not be fully understood, but you will be listened to and you will feel heard."

When you feel like you can express yourself without fear, you're likely to trust that your partner truly loves and cares for you. It's why Dr. Lori Whatley, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, tells Bustle that emotional safety is a "cornerstone for a healthy relationship." It's like a safety net that allows for intimacy and connection to grow.

As you can imagine, forming a deep connection with your partner will take some work. So here are some "awkward" things you and your partner should do in order to feel emotionally safe in your relationship, according to experts.