Being early to events, taking multivitamins, remembering commitments and actually going to hot yoga are all aspirational goals, but for people who don't have it all together, they likely aren't a priority. It's not that we enjoy doing the bare minimum — it's just usually what happens when you overestimate your own ambition. But if you're the person in your friend group who's constantly texting "Five minutes away!" when you haven't even gotten dressed yet, people probably think you don't have your life together — and they aren't going to be afraid to tell you. If you're wondering whether your loved ones think you don't have your life together, it's time to examine the signs. After all, it can be hard to know whether you're getting people's actual opinions when most of us have a hard time being blunt.
People may couch their concerns in other language. It's kind of like training an animal or child — instead of berating you when you make a mistake, they heap praise when you do something right. Even if you don't plan on making any changes soon, you'll be fine. According to The Guardian, late people with loud mouths are smarter than their counterparts, so there are some upsides. But if you're curious whether you're a disorganized person, these are the ways to tell — and they have to do with what your friends are saying.