Even the most romantic among us don't always feel like we have the time to plan sweet romantic gestures for our partners. There's really no excuse, though, because there are so many nice things you can do quickly and easily, and the payoff is worth the extra effort. It's often said that when you give, you receive, that that definitely applies to relationships. "Just reducing negative interactions is not enough for most couples to feel satisfied in their relationship, they also need to experience regular positives," Nicole Prause, Ph.D., sexual psychophysiologist and founder of Liberos LLC, tells Bustle.
A recent study in Emotion found that the more people performed nice romantic gestures for their partners, like doing their chores or changing plans to make time for them, the happier they were with their relationships. In fact, they benefited even if their partners didn't thank them. So, the time or money you spend doing something nice for your partner could pay off for both of you. After you've been dating for a while or living together, it's easy to get comfortable and stop making an effort to please each other. This can lead you to take each other for granted, which zaps the enjoyment from your relationship. Doing nice things for each other is one way to combat that.