During the first few months of my relationship, my partner and I were having sex every day. Then, I didn't want to as badly — but I felt like I should to preserve our passion, so I did. Eventually, though, I realized I was having more sex than I wanted. I'd gotten it into my head that happy couples have sex every day, so I pushed myself to even though I wasn't really feeling it.
There are a lot of reasons people might have more sex than they're actually comfortable with. Sometimes, they think their partner does, whether that perception is accurate or not. Other times, they might feel like there's something wrong with them if they don't want more sex. In my case, I realized, I wanted to be the "cool girl" whose every move pleases men, and I didn't want to encourage the stereotype that women are less sexual than men. But once I was honest about how much sex I wanted, I realized my partner was on the same page. We both wanted to please each other so badly, we weren't speaking up for our own desires.
There's also such a thing as having more sex than you want to because your partner's pressuring you, which is a form of sexual abuse. (That's a situation you need to get out of as soon as possible, and here are some signs you might be dealing with it.) That's not what I'm talking about here, though — I'm talking about pushing yourself into more sex than you want. Here are some signs you might be having more sex than you really want to deep down.