I've never been one to set much store by the stars: IMHO, being born around the same time as someone else doesn't automatically mean you'll have similar personalities, but my curiosity about all things astrology still compels me to research the
positive and negative traits of each zodiac sign... and honestly, they seem to hold true (for me, at least). Even though I'm a bit of a skeptic, I have to admit that some of my more dominant traits are definitely typical of what you'd expect from my sign: I'm a stereotypical stubborn-but-loyal Taurus. But no matter your level of skepticism, it's always worthwhile to be aware of both your good and bad qualities — and reading up on your zodiac sign's common traits can give you some serious insight into your personality.
"Every zodiac sign is associated with positive and negative characteristics; this tension compels life forward and outlines the journey from youth to maturity,"
astrologer and tarot reader Charmaine Frapp tells Bustle. It'd be nice if we could pick and choose our personality traits and purposely leave out all the bad ones, but that's not really how it works — no one is flawless (sorry Bey), so we have to learn how to manage our negative traits. The good news? Everyone also has stand-out positive traits, which those around you will notice and totally look up to you for.
If you need a little confidence boost, here's the
quality people most admire in you, based on your zodiac sign. 1 Aries: Their Drive
Aries' ballsy, go-getter attitude might make them seem a little intimidating — but that's not necessarily a bad thing.
"Ruled by red-hot Mars, Aries exudes strength, confidence and serious 'don't mess with me' vibes," Astrologer
Valerie Mesa tells Bustle. "This fire sign comes across as bossy, bold and incredibly willing — their drive is an unstoppable thing." 2 Taurus: Their Dependability
Taurus is known for being very sensual and attuned to their own and others' emotions — which makes them a great friend to lean on when you're going through a rough time.
"Aside from their A-game in the looks department, those born with their sun in Taurus are an absolute delight to be around," Mesa says. "Venusian and irresistible, this earth sign is honest, dependable and always down to indulge in the pleasures of life."
3 Gemini: Their Wit
Gemini is the queen of snappy one-liners, and her quick wit will have all her friends and family in stitches.
"Hysterical and intellectual, those born with their sun in Gemini are natural conversationalists and incredible storytellers," Mesa says. "There's really nothing a Gemini can't do, and the world can't help but admire their chameleon-like personalities."
4 Cancer: Their Empathy
For all the times when you just need someone to vent to, Cancer should be your go-to pal.
"Cancer is definitely the most sensitive in the zodiac," Mesa says. "Nostalgic and unusually receptive, those born under the sign of the crab are born with an emotional sixth sense. Their nurturing and empathetic nature is like no other; although, make sure you never hurt them or their loved ones. This water sign forgives but never forgets."
5 Leo: Their Charisma
Leo's charisma and energy leaves a first impression: others will notice the fun, exciting vibe that Leo brings to every room.
"The class clown and the life of the party, those born under the sign of the lion can't help but bring utter joy to the people around them," Mesa says. "This fire sign is artistic, charismatic and full of life. It's always a party when they're around, and their childlike sense of humor is one of a kind."
6 Virgo: Their Eye For Detail
Everyone has that
one friend you can always count on to have all the minute details planned out to perfection — and chances are, that friend is a Virgo.
"In the midst of making the most difficult tasks seem like the easiest in the world, Virgo remains cool, calm and collected," Mesa says. "The truth is, this earth sign's mission is to do the job right or not at all. Their precision and eye for detail is something out of this world. They woke up like this."
7 Libra: Their Charm
There's never a dull moment when Libra's around: her on-point conversational skills simply won't allow it.
"Libras are the children of Aphrodite and just like Taurus, simply delightful," Mesa says. "Socially curious and charming conversationalists, Libra is a pro at analyzing all sides of a story. Delicate and harmonious, this air sign will lure you in faster than you think."
8 Scorpio: Their Sex Appeal
Talk about oozing sexiness: Scorpio is irresistible and radiates confidence wherever she goes.
"Despite their femme fatale sex appeal and smoldering aura, Scorpios are blessed with many different powers," Mesa says. "For instance, with Pluto being their ruler, Scorpios have the power to intimidate and scare whomever they please, with just one look. They’re secretive psychics who plumb into the depths of your psyche in seconds. Their eyes are X-rays with a dose of mental hypnosis."
9 Sagittarius: Their Optimism
For anyone who's a glass-half-empty kind of person, a Sagittarius friend will be a breath of fresh, empowering air.
"Sagittarius' overflowing optimism is so genuine it's contagious," Mesa says. "Similar to their sister sign Leo, this fire sign's personality is colorful and full of life. Worldly and intelligent, Sagittarius is known as the philosopher of the zodiac. They’re the ones you call when you plan a sporadic road trip or decide to go skydiving."
10 Capricorn: Their Wisdom
Everyone needs that one friend who has a good head on her shoulders, no matter the situation. Capricorn's wisdom is a seriously laudable asset that doesn't go unnoticed.
"They play to win just like Aries, except they’re hardly as impulsive," Mesa says. "Wise and determined, Capricorn’s ambition is not like anything you've ever seen. Their choices are investments and their routine is strict. They are the personal trainers of their entire life, and trust me when I say, it’s no days off."
11 Aquarius: Their Originality
There's something super admirable about someone who marches to the beat of their own drum, and that's exactly what makes Aquarius so awe-inspiring.
"Aquarius is on a completely different level both mentally and intellectually," Mesa says. "Their humanitarian spirits and innate ability to think collectively is truly unique. Original is an understatement for this air sign. They are quirky, scientific and out-of-the-box thinkers."
12 Pisces: Their Imagination
If you're ever feeling uninspired, ask your Pisces friend to help you brainstorm: their imagination and intelligence are the perfect combo.
"Pisces is the artist of the zodiac," Mesa says. "Their minds are made of dreamy déjà vu and mystical bedtime stories. They’re brilliant visionaries and a lot smarter than they seem. Don’t be fooled by Pisces' dazed and confused disposition, they’re just strolling through different spiritual realms."
However, not everyone is as dreamy and imaginative as Pisces — but even if you don't believe in some ethereal ~power~ of the stars, you can still feel a connection to your zodiac sign and relate to some of your sign-specific traits (both the good
and the bad).