Celebrating Valentine's Day single — or not celebrating it— has gotten almost mythical. Our culture tends to think of it as this big scary night that can only spent crying into a pint of ice cream if you're single. But that's nonsense, because Valentine's Day, though obviously focused on romantic love, can also acknowledge and celebrate love in general. "I think loving V-Day is based on your desire for love," Rob Alex, who created Sexy Challenges and Mission Date Night with his wife, tells Bustle. "Send your parents a card, draw hearts in the snow on a friend's car and see their reaction, take some heart-shaped dog treats to the humane society, or just treat yourself special on this day."
So if you're single this Valentine's Day, think about spending it with people you love. Of course, if you'd rather spend it alone, there's no shame in that — but not everyone wants to be alone on the holiday. A recent survey by digital savings destination, RetailMeNot, looked at 1,037 Americans 18+ to find out how singles would be celebrating this Valentine's Day — and of course, it doesn't involve tears and cats. In fact, while 29 percent said they would spend the day alone (pampering themselves, that is), a whole lot of people said they would seek out other people they care about. So if you're looking for ideas, here's how singles across the country will be spending Valentine's Day: