As International Women's Day approaches (it's March 8, 2017 — mark it on your calendar), I'm reminded of all the reasons this empowering, important day is necessary in the first place. For all the amazing progress feminism has made, there are still a lot of ways the sexes are unequal. And as someone who spends her time writing about all things sex, naturally there's one particular inequality that really irks me: the orgasm gap. For those of you who are unaware, the term "orgasm gap" refers to the disparity between how often straight men finish during sex compared to straight women — and it's a very real, troublesome phenomenon.
"In heterosexual partnerships, the fact is that men have more orgasms than women," Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe's Global Passion Ambassador, tells Bustle. "To be clear, this gap is not women’s fault, nor does the blame land with men. Rather, female sexual anatomy, the clitoris in particular, is not ideally positioned for stimulation during penetrative sex. That, coupled with a communication breakdown when it comes to pleasure, leads to the infamous orgasm gap."
According to Cosmopolitan's Female Orgasm Study in 2015, only 57 percent of women have orgasms "most or every time" with a partner — but 95 percent said their partner finishes most or every time. So why the huge disparity? Weedmark says there's an "education gap": Women and men aren't taught enough about their own bodies, let alone how each other's bodies work, too. Couple that with the fact that our culture isn't taught to talk about pleasure, and it's no surprise that there are so many straight women not having orgasms with a partner (or faking them instead).
The good news? Helping to close the orgasm gap is both a fun and rewarding challenge to undertake. Here are five ways both men and women can help to close the orgasm gap, one ~happy ending~ at a time: