We don’t normally think about breathing, since it comes so naturally to us. But just because we’re going to breathe whether we think about it or not doesn’t mean we’re using our breath in the best way possible. That’s no truer at any time than it is during sex, when our breath can help connect us with our bodies and intensify our sensations.
“I believe that our breath is the most underused tool in our sexual arsenals,” Astroglide’s Resident Sexologist Dr. Jess O’Reilly tells Bustle. “With breath, you awaken sensitive nerve endings and can experiment with different rhythms, patterns, and temperatures with ease.”
However, unless you’re quite the multitasker, learning breathing exercises while you’re having sex can get complicated. So, Dr. Jess suggests trying them outside the bedroom first. One exercise she recommends is “wave breathing,” where you picture yourself lying on a beach and picture the waves washing over you each time you inhale. When you exhale, picture them moving back into the ocean. A similar technique is “cloud breathing,” where you picture yourself inside a warm, fluffy cloud that tightens around you with each inhale and expands into the sky with each exhale. This should help you get used to deliberately controlling your breath.
Once you’ve mastered that, here are some ways to introduce breathing techniques into sex.