Lots of fights between movie and sitcom couples end in make-up sex, but is it actually healthy to complete our arguments this way IRL? Does retreating to the bedroom solve anything, or will our problems still be waiting for us on the other side of the door? Make-up sex can be productive, but only if you go about it thoughtfully, and it doesn't mean the discussion is over.
"Make-up sex is the seductive dance between passion and aggression, and a way to move forward from a heated exchange or spat the two of you had," says Marissa Nelson, licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, and founder of IntimacyMoons Retreats. "'I love you,' 'screw you,' and 'I am still mad but letting it go.' All of these feelings can make the sexual experience fiery hot, and make-up sex is the perfect way to turn that left-over frustration into ecstasy."
Though there are unhealthy ways to use it, there's nothing wrong with make-up sex in and of itself. "As long as sex is not the only way a couple resolves conflict, make-up sex is perfectly healthy because it allows the couple to re-connect and give each other pleasure in the process," says Nelson.