Getting ready for a date takes quite a bit of energy and mental preparation. So it can be really disappointing when someone suddenly has to cancel on you the day of. It's normal to feel bummed out, mad, and confused. But according to experts, how you respond when someone cancels a date will determine whether you'll end up actually going out with them or not.
"Every situation is different," Laurie Berzack, MSW, matchmaker and dating coach, tells Bustle. "Whether it's a first date or you've already been out a few times, you should always take a canceled date at face value, approach it with kindness, and don't take it personally."
For the most part, it isn't really cool to cancel on someone when you've already made plans. But there are so many legitimate reasons for needing to cancel on them.
As Nancy Ruth, breakup coach and relationship expert tells Bustle, "In an app-dating world, date cancelations happen all the time; maybe they genuinely were sick, or had a work meeting come up. You may have previously been canceled on and assumed this person is doing the same, but that can jeopardize relationship potential if we paint everyone with the same brush."
The reality is, you'll never truly know. People will tell you what they choose to tell you. So the last thing you should do is overthink it. The only thing you can do is respond in a way that aligns with what you want.
Here are some ways to respond when someone cancels a date, according to experts.