How To Tell A Friend You Don’t Want To Hang Out With Their Partner, According To An Expert

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Friendships, in many ways, make our lives better. Research by the Mayo Clinic has found that not only do our friendships enrich our lives but they're actually good for our health too. Which is great news — that is until your friend starts dragging their partner along every time you get together. Then the enrichment isn't exactly quite the same.

As much as it can be really exciting that your BFF has found someone that they're smitten with, sometimes you want to spend time with a friend without their partner around. There's nothing wrong in wanting your friend all to yourself, nor does this make you greedy or even selfish. No friendship can thrive if your friend's partner is always in the picture, just because it tends to throw the dynamic off. Which is something that smitten people tend to miss, especially in the early stages of a relationship.

While not wanting to spend time with your friend's partner doesn't necessarily mean you don't like them, it might be hard for your friend to realize the true intention of wanting ample one-on-one time. Because of this, it's important to tread lightly and make sure your friend realizes it's about your friendship, and not about any dislike for their partner. (That's a discussion for another time.)

Here are seven ways to gently let your friend know you want more time with them, and less time with them and their partner.