If You Answer “No” To Any Of These 9 Questions, Your Partner Might Not Be “The One”

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Simply thinking your partner could be "The One" is easy. Figuring out whether or not they actually are is another. Luckily, there are a few important questions you can ask yourself to help you determine if your partner really is "The One" or not.

Do you and your partner have disagreements? Do you and your partner make mistakes? Do you two have problems? If so, Amber Shirley, relationship coach behind @TextingAllQueens, tells Bustle, you're off to a good start. Many tend to believe that finding the right person means finally having that perfect relationship. But that's far from the truth.

"All relationships encounter issues and challenges," Shirley says. "However, when you’ve met the right person, you and your partner will see problems as issues to be resolved together."

"The One" may challenge you, she says. But they will always be your biggest supporter. When you argue, they'll be sure to fight "clean" and stay away from hurtful words. They won't criticize or make you feel worse when you're already down. Above all, they make you feel safe.

"You never question the value you bring to your partner's life," Shirley says. "They constantly let you know how important you are to them, and their words and actions reinforce a sense of safety, stability and security." It's what part of being in a healthy relationship is all about.

When you like someone a lot or you're just hoping for your partner to finally be the right person, it's easy to overlook a lot of the small, yet important things. So if you answer "no" to any of the following questions, experts say, your partner is not "The One."