Let's just be real for a minute: having sex for the first time is nothing like what you see in movies or on TV. In fact, it can be downright awkward and messy — and that's totally normal. As much as we all might wish our first time was filled with rose petals, soft music, and miraculous multiple orgasms, the reality is that figuring out how to have good sex takes time, and almost no one nails it from the get-go.
If you ask me, all the hype surrounding losing your virginity (and the concept of virginity itself) is unnecessary: perpetuating the idea that having sex for the first time should be a universally magical, wonderful experience only creates pressure and anxiety for those who are yet to have sex. Obviously, there's no rule that says your first time is guaranteed to be awful — for many people, it really is magical! — but you shouldn't feel embarrassed, ashamed, or blame yourself if everything doesn't go according to plan... because you're far from alone in your disappointment.
In case you need any more proof that having sex for the first isn't all it's cracked up to be, here are 13 tweets from the #MyFirstTime trending topic on Twitter, where people revealed the nitty gritty truth about what their first time having sex was really like.