I've been in love a few times, been infatuated even more, and in lust more than both of those combined. And, not surprisingly, when I was infatuated, I thought I was in love; when I was in love I tried to dismiss it as lust, and when I was in lust, I just wanted to get naked. Basically, when you're caught up in any of these feelings, trying to tell one for the other can be difficult; all three can throw our lives into a tailspin. It's only after the fact, when you've gained perspective, that you can see things a bit more clearly. Emphasis on "a bit." So how does one tell the difference between lust, infatuation, and love?
"Let's begin by acknowledging that love has three layers of intimacy; we call this the Relationship PIE," Vince Brantley, Certified Relationship Coach with Maze of Love, tells Bustle. "They are physical, intellectual, and emotional. This is important to consider when distinguishing love, lust, and infatuation."
In addition to taking into consideration the Relationship PIE, there's also the fact that love has more stability to it than lust and infatuation.
While lust can evolve into love, or vice versa, can infatuation? And if it does, will that love stand a chance of survival? The only way to get to the bottom of all this is to learn the difference between lust, infatuation, and love.