There are a lot of different ways that you can show someone how much you care. Some people are all about saying how they feel, while some people show their sentiments more through their actions. This idea — that we all show love differently — is central to the concept of the five love languages.
Dr. Gary Chapman created this idea and outlines them in his book The 5 Love Languages. The idea being that there are five different ways people feel love and show love in their relationships. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. But what's the most popular way to express yourself in a romantic relationship?
According to new data from dating app Hinge — where members answer questions to a few prompts that then show up on their profiles — the most common love language is Quality Time, which was over twice as popular for its users as the next option, Words of Affirmation.
Neither of these sound like you? Don't worry, everyone is different and there's no reason you have to have the same love language as your partner in order to have a health relationship.
“I believe the relationship theory of love languages are very relevant to finding your perfect match, but not in the way that most people assume,” senior matchmaker and dating coach Lori Salkin tells Bustle. “People do not need to speak the same love language to succeed as a couple, rather they need to understand the love language their significant other speaks. That is not easy; it not only requires understanding the person and how they are different you, but that what is important to them is different from what is important to you and being able to separate your wants and needs from theirs to give them what they want and trust in return that they will give you what you want while neither of you is acting for yourself, but only for the other. If it happens to be you speak the same love language, that is significantly easier!”
So even if you an and a partner or someone you're interested in don't speak the same love language, understanding how each other expresses and received affection can be so helpful. Here's what else Hinge found.