The Relationship Red Flags People Regret Overlooking, Because Your Cat's Disapproval Is A Bad Sign

Andre Zaeh for Bustle

Sometimes, you have to learn things the hard way. And then learn them again and again before they really sink in. One of the things that tends to work this way is identifying red flags in relationships. When we really want something to work, it turns out, we'll forgive people for a lot.

There are some signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship that just should not be overlooked, though. Sure, people can change, but if you get into a relationship with someone, it should be because they're the kind of person you want to date — not because they may one day be.

Even when you know that, though, the question remains as to whether an issue should really be a deal-breaker or whether it's something you can compromise on. One way to make that call is to find out what happened to other people in the same situation: Did things eventually resolve, or did matters only get worse?

So, I asked people what early warning signs they regret overlooking in relationships. If you notice any of them, you might want to consider talking to your partner and reconsidering the relationships. At their best, they could foreshadow an eventual breakup, and at their worst, they could be signs of abuse.

1. Keeping Secrets

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2. Unavailability

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3. Refusal To Apologize

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4. Laziness

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5. Neediness

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6. A Criminal Record

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7. Badmouthing Exes

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8. Your Cat's Disapproval

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9. Overeagerness

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10. Immaturity

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Obviously, your deal-breakers may differ from others'. But since these people figured out what not to put up with the hard way, you'd might as well learn the easy way and consider their input.