For many people, sex is not just physical. For some, it's emotional, and for others, it's even spiritual. To psychic Deborah Graham, star of TLC's Psychic Matchmaker and author of Get Your Head Out of Your App, nothing is purely physical. She's attuned to the spiritual dimensions of everything including sex, and she tells Bustle there's a lot more we could be getting out of it than most of us are right now.
Graham's job is not only to give psychic readings but also to set people up based on how their energies mesh. And the same supernatural connection people can feel on dates can also be achieved during sex. In fact, if you're not connected to your second chakra — the part of your lower abdomen that stores your sexual energy — she believes your sex life could also suffer emotionally and physically.
"At a certain point, people are just kind of like, 'Ah, I'm tired. I'm not into it. It's like they actually stop the energy from flowing,'" she says. "It's not about them not being sexually attracted. The body is a shell. We all have this inner being inside of us that's able to connect to energy."
How do you get that energy flowing, though? Here's how Graham suggests tapping into that supernatural force that makes sparks fly and souls unite.