'Vanderpump Rules' Star Scheana Marie Explains How Being Honest With Herself Led To Her Marriage Ending
Traditional wedding vows say spouses will love, honor, and cherish each other for better or for worse. However, Vanderpump Rules' star Scheana Marie told E! News she had to be honest with herself when she realized she could not stand by her estranged husband, Mike Shay, through his worse times. The reality star opted to put on her usual cheerful smile to disguise her pain instead while she struggled to come to terms with the truth that their marriage was over.
Marie attempted to create an illusion during their two years together that she and Shay were in living in marital bliss. However, she admitted eventually she had to face the fact that they were having problems. She claimed to E!,
"There were a lot of things from the beginning of our marriage that kind of tainted the whole relationship. Three months in I found out he had a pill problem. Right before our one-year anniversary, I saw some inappropriate text messages. Then, fast forward to our second anniversary, and I'm just trying to pretend like everything's fine, because in my mind, we're married — for better or for worse. This is the worse part, but we have the rest of our lives to figure it out. This is a temporary rough patch."
Unfortunately, being in front of the camera for the hit Bravo show did not help the aspiring singer and the music producer. Marie said while their relationship improved in early 2016, she claims she found out that Shay was taking pills once again in October. Bustle has reached out to Shay for comment, but did not receive a response at the time of publication. In an preview for the Vanderpump Rules reunion, Shay is shown shaking his head and saying, "I can't even look at you right now," when Marie claims she caught him texting someone else.
"My mom and other people around me had noticed a change in his behavior. I was either oblivious to it or I just didn't want to believe what I was seeing right in front of my face," she told E!.
The Season 5 finale gave audiences a look into the couple's tearful separation three months after Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz's August 2016 wedding. Yet Marie said she reached her breaking point after confronting Shay about allegedly buying pills and taking money about of her bank account. "I looked him in the eyes and he lied to me," she claimed. "That's when I was like, 'Now I don't have another choice. I know I fully cannot trust you ever again.'"
During the finale, after Shay repeatedly denied Marie's accusations, she says, "Everything isn't supposed to last forever." Shay tearfully replies, "This is," while pointing his fingers between the couple.
Trust and communication are the foundation of any relationship. For Marie, she not only felt she wasn't getting both from the man she married, but she also needed to trust her instincts regardless of how heartbroken it made her. Clinging to an image of how a something once was is not enough to save a marriage. Hope may impel you to take action to protect the future of the relationship, but it is ultimately up to both people to commit to making a change.
One doesn't want to admit to failing in a marriage — especially after having a televised wedding. But as odd as it sounds, admitting to failure may lead to success, no matter what the situation. Doing the right thing does not always feel great in the moment, but living in your truth is much healthier than living a lie.