I was afraid I was the only one who despised being told "don't be so picky." But thankfully, Match's 2017 Singles in America survey recently informed me that this is among Millennials' most hated pieces of dating advice, along with "you've got to put yourself out there" and "it will happen when you least expect it." But do we hate this advice because it's wrong, or do we just not want to admit it's right? I asked experts what they think of the advice we can't stand, and as usual, the answer is more nuanced than "it's good" or "it's bad."
The great — and annoying — thing about dating advice is that pretty much everybody feels qualified to give it out. Most people have, after all, had some sort of dating experience at some point. Then, we're left to comb through different and often contradictory pieces of advice in order to figure out what applies to us.
It's important to remember in this process that it's not all meant to apply to everyone. For example, a lot of advice is given under the presumption that everybody wants to get married and have kids. If you're looking to be polyamorous, unmarried, and childfree, that supposed wisdom will be useless to you. That's why we need to empower everyone to take advice that helps them and ignore advice that doesn't.
Here's what experts think of each piece of dating advice Millennials are sick of.