There's a lot of advice out there about how to support your partner in a relationship — and how your partner should support you, whether that's through listening, helping them solve a problem, or just being there when you need them. It's easy to see why there's so much emphasis on it, because emotional support is key to happy, functioning relationship.
"Having psychological and emotional support in a relationship creates cohesion between two people," licensed psychologist Dr. Danielle Forshee tells Bustle. But when we talk about support, we sometimes make it sound so easy — and we don't always address the more complicated issue: What if your partner doesn't want your support?
Sometimes, no matter how much someone is hurting and how much you're trying to reach out, a partner just won't be receptive and instead, they'll pull away. This can be a confusing and disheartening experience, so it's important to take a step back and breathe. There are a lot of different reasons they could be hurting — work stress, problems with their family, or maybe they're struggling with their mental health. "It's important to recognize exactly why your partner is pulling away in the first place," Emily Holmes Hahn, relationship expert and founder and LastFirst matchmaking service, tells Bustle.
If you feel like your partner won't accept your support and you don't know what to do, here's where experts say you can start.