In the past few years, sexting has been everywhere. According to a 2014 study, 54 percent of college students admitted to sexting before they reached 18, while another study from that same year found that half of the phones of adults contain sexts, including “racy selfies and other intimate content,” that has either been sent by them or someone else, and is know currently at home on their phone. Basically, everyone is sexting, keeping those sexts on their phone for future enjoyment, and if you’re not sexting, then it’s time to join in on the fun.
While sexting sometimes gets a bad rap, thanks to shady politicians and hackers who love to expose nude photos of celebrities, sexting isn't all bad. When it involves consenting adults and neither of those adults are married and running for mayor of New York City (I'm looking at you, Anthony Weiner), it actually has quite a few exciting aspects that can really add a little somethin' extra to a relationship. It's also a fun and healthy way to show your partner just how into them you really are.
Yes, sexting is indeed awesome and here are eight reasons why you should try it with your main squeeze.
1. It’s Hot Foreplay
We already know that foreplay is excellent, especially for women. So, if you could get your foreplay started even before your partner gets home, why wouldn’t you? With sexting you can send tantalizing ideas you have for later along with some sexy photos, and once you get the back and forth going, by the time you finally see each other, you’ll feel like you’re going to explode.
2. It Gives You A Chance To Explore Your Fantasies
Everyone has sexual fantasies; that’s just a fact. But some people struggle with being able to communicate those sexual fantasies to their partner because they either feel uncomfortable or may even feel ashamed by what goes on in their head. However, sexting allows people to feel more free in sharing their fantasies, because you get to hide behind technology. It’s sort of like how Internet commenters have no qualms about being truly vicious and mean ― technology puts up a wall that allows people to say things that they normally couldn’t say to someone’s face.
3. It’s A Great Introduction To Talking Dirty
Because sexting creates a safe space of sorts for you to tell your partner all your sexy, kinky thoughts, writing them all out is essentially taking you one step closer to learning the art of talking dirty in bed. This is definitely a skill that, when both you and partner master it, will really step up your sexual experiences.
4. It Makes You Both Feel Desirable
To have someone sext you all the things they love about you and want to do to you all day long, really takes your confidence up several notches. When both you and your partner are sharing all these goodies, you’re making each other feel hot, sexy, wanted, and adored. Everybody wants to be adored.
5. It’s Exciting To Have A Secret
If you send a text to your partner and they’re in the middle of a meeting, they instantly get a secret that belongs to no one else in the world, but you. Their boss could be going on and on about mergers and acquisitions, but suddenly there’s a photo of your boobs with the words, “I’m going to give you the best blowjob of your life later,” in their hand and everything is just better. When they do the same to you, again, it’s just an awesome secret to have and share.
6. It Spices Up Your Relationship
Even if your relationship isn’t to a point where it needs a dash of hot sauce, it can still make what you already have even more exciting. Let’s be honest: Naughty photos and dirty words are so effing hot. It will give you permanent sex brain, and you won’t be able to get enough of each other.
7. It’s A Bonding Experience
Whenever you communicate with your partner, it just brings you closer. That’s even more so the case when you’re delving into sexy behavior. Between having that little secret between you, the openness of your sexual fantasies being shared, and the trust involved in sending your partner a nude photo really bonds you two. In fact, studies have found that sexting is great for your relationship.
8. It’s Super Fun
As long as you always keep your phone locked, don’t leave it in a cab somewhere, or accidentally sext your mom because you weren’t paying attention, sexting your partner is a lot of fun. Your partner is going to be stoked I convinced you to give it a try.
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