Why Lasting Longer In Bed Is Overrated

When it comes to helping a man last longer in bed, there’s no shortage of articles, geared to both men and women, on how to deal with the “issue.” In fact, a 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that out of the 1,200 male participants, about 30 percent of men felt that they finish too quickly during sex. Despite the fact that the same study found that none of the men actually qualified as suffering from premature ejaculation, it didn’t change their minds that they needed to last longer in bed. Even as women, we’re taught great sex is somehow related to just how long a man can last in bed, and what we've learned from our culture is that longer is better — but that's not necessarily true.

As someone who enjoys the occasional quickie, I know that great sex doesn’t have to go on and on and on. Honestly, there have been more than a few occasions where I’ve been with partners who took so long that I actually became bored and started counting the seconds until blast off or making grocery lists in my head. While a happy medium between taking a long time and finishing quickly is may be somewhat ideal, there are actually some upsides to having sex with a guy who finishes too quickly, and here are five reasons why.

1. Vaginas Are Amazing, But They Aren’t Made Of Steel

Even though your vagina has superpowers, technically, it's made of skin and muscles just like the rest of your body. What this means is that rigorous, prolonged sex with a partner can actually make your vagina really sore. Like, so sore that the thought of having sex again almost turns your stomach, because ouch! If your partner comes quickly, you can avoid not just a sore vagina and having to take a break from getting it on for the next few days.

2. It Gives You An Opportunity To Do It Again

When your partner comes quickly, it gives you the chance to have sex again, and who doesn’t love back-to-back sex? Countless studies have proven that the more sex you have, the better your body and mind are for it, so if he comes too quickly, you can just go for a few more rounds. Also, I bet he’ll come a little less quickly each time.

3. Quickies Are Actually Pretty Hot

The best part about quickies is that they’re hot and give you the necessary burst of energy you need to get through the day. If you know your partner comes really fast, just think of all the times throughout the day you can get it on! And all the different places! And all of a sudden every lunch break is special! And oh, look! Let’s do it in the car! There's a deserted house just around the bend! Seriously ― the opportunities of hot quickies are really endless, especially if you let yourself get really creative about it.

4. You Actually Have Other Things To Do

I know this sounds like a total mood killer, but sometimes you really do have other things you need to get done during the day and a sex marathon can stand in the way of that. At least in having sex with a guy who comes quickly, you can get some then go about your merry way.

5. You Get To Enjoy The Magic Of Foreplay

I know it’s a stereotype, but not all men are really into foreplay. I mean, they’ll do it for a whole five minutes, then they want to get in there and have intercourse ― not that I’m blaming them. But one of the best things about being with a guy who finishes too quickly is that you get to indulge in other things in order to make for a longer sex session. Granted, foreplay is bound to make him climax even faster than he normally would, but at least you get to enjoy the long drawn out fun that makes for a perfect appetizer to intercourse. Everyone loves appetizers.

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