6 Sex Positions For Introverts
Despite the fact that individual personalities are super nuanced, it seems like, on the whole, the world can be divided into two basic kinds of people: Introverts and extroverts. Introversion is characterized by a focus on internal thoughts, feelings, and moods rather than on external stimulation, and often comes with the "quiet, anti-social loner" stereotype. So are there certain sex positions for introverts?
In short: No. Just because you tend towards introversion doesn't necessarily mean your sex drive is low or that you're incapable of getting kinky in the bedroom. The stereotypes surrounding introverts are largely unfair, and can be pretty frustrating: Not all introverts are painfully shy, and not all extroverts are obnoxiously outgoing. The main difference between introverts and extroverts is actually how they recharge: Introverts might prefer doing a quiet, solitary activity, while an extrovert feels most energized at a social gathering or just chatting with friends.
Obviously, there's no such thing as an "introverts-only" or "extroverts-only" sex position — people have different preferences and your personality out-of-bedroom doesn't necessarily inform your sexual desires. However, if you are a mega-introvert who has difficulty in social settings and finds it hard to let loose between the sheets, here are six sex positions to help alleviate the awkwardness and ease you into having sex in a way that makes you feel comfortable. (And keep in mind, these positions work with two women as well!
Spooning is an amazing sex position in general, because it's basically cuddling with the added bonus of someone f*cking you at the same time. You're not facing your partner, but it's still an intimate and passionate position that is great for easing into sex. (Side note: This is hands-down one of the best morning sex positions, if that's something you're into.)
Ahh, missionary, the classic yet underrated position. If you're an avid porn-watcher, it might feel like an introvert's nightmare: The women in porn always seem to be doing some crazy sexual gymnastics routine, all while moaning loudly and generally seeming more than a little extroverted. If you're afraid sex means you have to put on some sort of show, you're (fortunately) mistaken. Missionary is great no matter what your personality, but introverts might like it for its simplicity and the fact that it still gets the job done (and well, I might add).
3. Mutual Masturbation
Again, not all introverts are necessarily shy and uncomfortable with their sexuality. But if that does indeed describe you, you should consider trying mutual masturbation with your partner in order to explore your own body while also learning about your partner's likes and dislikes. It's fun, mutually satisfying, improves communication in bed, and will help you be more confident the next time the two of you have *actual* sex, because you'll know what to do to please your partner.
4. Modified Doggy-Style
It's all the skin-to-skin contact and closeness of missionary, but with the sexiness and added pleasure of the from-behind angle of doggy style. It's really the best of both worlds: It feels amazing, but there's nothing overly complicated or anxiety-inducing about lying on your stomach. Bonus: You are facing away from your partner so you can make as ridiculous of an O-face as you want without fear of judgment.
Just like spooning, having sex in a sitting position (whether on a bed or in a chair a la Juno) is essentially cuddle-f*cking. With your arms and legs wrapped around your partner, it's like a super sexy bear-hug that allows you to feel close to your partner without the frills of some of the "fancier" positions. Win-win.
6. Modified Woman-On-Top
Just because you're an introvert doesn't mean you don't know how to take charge! If it's easiest for you to orgasm when you're on top and in control of the pace (as is the case for many women), but you're wary of the showy nature of cowgirl, you can make it a little less nerve-wracking for yourself by leaning down against your partner's chest and burying your face in his or her neck.
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