7 Sample Texts For Asking A Guy Out

I think it's time for a bit of a dating rules revolution, because despite the fact that the rule of men asking women being old-fashioned, women still do not seem to be asking men out. So how do you ask a guy out over text? Despite the fact that 95 percent of men think a woman a sking them out is "hot," I feel like I don't see it happening that often among my friends. Instead, a lot of my friends are sitting around waiting for people to come to them. And they're missing out on things they want.

So, why isn't it happening more? Probably because, no matter who you are, asking someone out can be awkward. So, so awkward. It's also really brave. You could end up with a "no" and feel embarrassed. But you know what? If that's the worst that could happen, you'll get over it. In like two seconds. Because, especially if it's someone you're talking to on app or just meet randomly, that person has literally 0 percent impact on your life. None.

I had to develop the nerve to ask people out. Mostly because, well, I just didn't get asked out a lot. It just didn't happen. Yeah, it's kind of crappy, but it's not the worst thing in the world and because of it I learned to be way more brave. And once you do it a few times, it's really not that big of a deal. I promise.

So here are some suggestions to get you started. (Warning: they may sound cheesy. Asking someone out may feel like it's beyond your comfort zone, and that's OK, you have to get on board.)

1. We've Been Talking, So Let's Just Do This

OK, I'm starting with something extra-bold and we can get easier from there. Sometimes if you've just been chatting for a long time, you need to break out of it and just go for it. I went out with a guy from Hinge because he spontaneously suggested something that night and I happened to be free and like his chutzpah. It also feels like there's less pressure to ask someone out like this because if they say no you know it was so last-minute and you can feel out how they reply before following up with more suggestions.

2. Something In Common, Let's Go

If you find something in common— literally anything— capitalize on that. You studied the same thing, have the same hobby, want to see the same film— just go for it! As I said before, if they can't do that specific thing you can feel out if they're interested in a more general way.

3. The Open Feeler

If you want the basic of all the basics, this is it. Just ask them out for a drink. Yeah, it's not catchy or witty, but also you know no one is going to be surprised or weirder out by it. It is 100 percent the expected thing for someone to say in this situation, so it'a the safest bet.

4. I'm Just Jumping In (With Something Low Pressure)

This is similar to the drink, but if you're someone who is too nice to leave a date that clearly isn't going anywhere, it's better to stick to coffee. You can spend less time and have it come to a natural end. As someone who has trouble saying no and has spent four hours on a date I didn't want to be on, sometimes sticking to coffee is best.

5. Netflix And Chill

Hey, sometimes you don't want to go on a date. Sometimes you just want a hookup. I'm not a fan of having someone you don't know come to your house— I like a public setting first. But if you've gone out with them or done whatever makes you feel comfortable, and then you decide you want to get laid, a binge-watching marathon is basically code for the horizontal mambo, which is awkward nerd code for sex).

6. Something Completely Random

Maybe you don't have anything in common so far, but they're good chat and you want to meet up. Jump on something they've said and suggest you do it together, or that they enjoy and you'd like to give a go. Yeah it's a little cheesy, but it gets things moving.

7. The Follow Up

Fun fact about asking people out: You may do it more than once. If you've had a good time on the first date and think they did too, suggest seeing each other again. Not 100 percent sure if they want to, right? Well, they're probably wondering the same thing about you. So be brave and put it out there. Reference any silly, fun things from the first date and just say it. I mean, you've met them once, if they say no it's really not a big deal. I've had maybe a billion people say no to me. It happens to everyone who puts themselves out there. But it's better to put yourself out there and get a pie in your face once and a while— because you'll get a lot of fun stuff along with the occasional pie. Plus, even if they say no you can be proud and self-assured that you tried.

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