7 Ways To Convince Your Partner To Have A MMF Threesome

One of the most common male fantasies is a threesome. The idea of having not one, but two women, is the type of stuff many, and I mean many, straight men want to experience. And why not? If you really love something, who wouldn’t want double of it? I know I feel that way about pizza, two whole pies of pizza to be exact.

But while there’s no denying that most men want to have sex with two women at once, we sometimes forget that women are just as interested in threesomes as men. It’s not as though just one gender gets to corner the market on desiring another person in the bedroom, and according to research, threesomes are in the top five fantasies for women, tucked in between being masturbated and being dominated. That’s pretty far up there on the list of desires in a world of thousands and thousands of fantasies from which to choose.

Although a 2014 study found that not every woman wants her fantasies to come true, for those who do, a MMF threesome just might be on the list, and there’s no shame in that. There’s also no shame in sitting down with your partner, discussing your desires, and seeing if they’re up for it.

Hoping to make your dreams of a MMF threesome happen this calendar year? With a dash of charm and a bunch of communication, you might be able to pull it off. Here are seven ways to convince your partner to have a MMF threesome.

1. Explain Why It Interests You

If you want to have a MMF threesome, there’s a good chance that you’ve been thinking about it for awhile. You’ve probably dabbled in watching some MMF porn or fantasized about being in such a scenario while masturbating. Wanting to be in a threesome isn’t a totally out-there fantasy, and since fantasies are normal and healthy, sharing it with your partner isn’t out of bounds. Nor is telling them why you’re so intrigued by it.

2. Assure Your Partner It’s Not Because He’s Lacking Anything

If you tell your partner that you want to be with him and another man, his initial response might be that he’s lacking in some way. He might think that he’s not delivering the goods and that’s why you want to bring another man into the mix. But be clear this is about fun and the last thing you want to do is ruin the relationship with a threesome. If you wanted to run off and have sex with someone else, then maybe he could be concerned. But since that isn’t the case and you want to just add someone else to the equation, he should be rest assured that it’s not about something he isn’t doing right.

3. Address How It Could Be Good For Your Sex Life

Sex is about exploration and experimentation. While it’s great having sex with your partner, sometimes you need to add a little spice. In adding spice, you’re having a new experience together, one that might even make you closer, enhancing your intimacy.

4. Let Him Discuss All His Concerns

Some men have a really hard time with not just the idea of sharing their partner with someone else, but being in a sexual situation with another man. Of course a MMF threesome doesn’t mean you’re asking your partner to have sex with another man, but if he thinks that’s what you’re proposing, be clear. MMF could simply mean wanting two men catering to your desires ― they don’t even have to touch each other if that's something they're not comfortable with.

5. Let Him Know He Can Have A Say In How It Goes Down

Let your partner know, from the beginning, that they have the power to say "no" at anytime during the threesome. Let them have a say in who the third party will be, and respect the fact if he doesn’t want the same person as you to be in on the threesome. You may be eyeing his BFF, but I’m thinking many best friends do not want to get involved in a threesome, because it can change the friendship forever. So although you may have suggested it, while trying to convince him it’s going to be a lot of fun, give him 50 percent of the power. This may be your fantasy, but if he’s part of it, then he has a say.

6. Make A Deal

The best way to get what you want is to bargain. Maybe this means you'll try something he's always wanted to try, too. Fair is fair.

7. Don’t Be Pushy About It

If you back anyone into a corner, they’re going to come out with their claws ready to defend themselves. You don’t want that. If you see your partner getting uncomfortable, then back off. As much as you may want to fulfill your fantasy, you don’t want to be a bully about it. In time, your partner might come around to the idea of a MMF threesome, or maybe he never will. You can't fault someone for not being interested in something that appeals to you, especially in regards to sex.

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