A newly study published in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality finds that women are more than twice as likely to go down on their partners than men are, even though men report enjoying the act of giving oral sex more.
The study surveyed 900 undergrads (stats on their sexual orientation — shocker — are not mentioned) and found that 26 percent of women had performed oral sex on their partners, while only 10 percent of men had. Obviously, the study is to be taken with a grain of salt, since the sample population was quite young, but also, ugh, that kind of makes it even more depressing. Why are only 10 percent of college dudes giving it up?
The other notable finding of the survey showed that only 28 percent of women who performed oral sex claimed to enjoy it, while a whopping 52 percent of men who did it claimed to enjoy it. If you think about it: this isn't all that surprising. Women, of course, feel more pressured, obligated, or expected to give blow jobs, whether they like them or not. So we see lots of unenthusiastic head for guys.
Men, on the other hand, stigmatize vulvas to such an extent that they'll barely get near one (with anything other than their penises, that is). But those who have #seenthelight realize that they actually enjoy performing oral sex. The other, not altogether terrible, factor skewing pleasure results for men is one in which male feminists actively gush their vague grasp on ~intersectionality~ and eagerness to pleasure women in exchange for cookies.
There might be a slight bias at play skewing the results, in which men, in an attempt to appear more "evolved," will inflate their actual enjoyment of going down on women. And let's be honest, is there anything creepier than that one Tinder dude who just seems way too into going down on you?
As clinical psychologist Dr. David Ley points out, "Men notoriously misperceive women's sexual interest in them, and project their own sexual interests and desires onto women." He was talking about why men send unsolicited dick pics, but the logic extends to men who are overly enthusiastic about going down on women. They want enthusiastic oral sex themselves, so they feign their own enthusiasm as a means of getting it.
Of course, there's nothing wrong a guy who's genuinely into it! But if he's creeping you out with his incessant chatter about how much he looooves going down on you, constantly bringing it up at inappropriate times, or otherwise overwhelming your desire to hear about how delightful your vulva is 24/7, it just might not actually be about you.
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