Do You Like Giving Oral? 16 Women Share How They Really Feel About Performing Oral Sex


Whether you love it or hate it, you almost definitely have an opinion about giving oral sex. Sometimes you’re into it, sometimes you’re not, and sometimes, it’s all about just focusing on trying not to gag. And if you're like many women, you might even love it and hate it at the same time.

Getting to the heart of the matter with oral sex is complex, because there's more than just physical sensations in play — there's also a complicated power dynamic at work. Sometimes, the person on the receiving end of oral sex is being pleasured, but also feels very vulnerable; meanwhile the giver, though performing an act that usually won't provide them with any direct physical pleasure, holds almost of the power in the situation. For some people (even those who don’t particularly care for the act itself), it’s that power imbalance inherent in oral sex that gets them off ― further proof that sex is not just physical, but also about our emotional impressions and sensations. But other times, that power dynamic is reversed — especially when women feel obligated to perform oral sex on their partners, even though they're not actually that interested.

These are just a handful of the reasons why oral sex may one of the most emotionally complicated sex acts around. Recently, Bustle asked women their thoughts on receiving oral sex, and their answers stretched all the way across the spectrum, from passionate love to disinterest and disdain. This time around, we asked 16 women how they feel about giving oral sex — and why.

1. Hannah, 26

2. Yese, 23

3. Joy, 35

4. Sabrina, 27

5. Mieko, 34

6. Sonya, 20

7. Tea, 30

8. Dana, 29

9. Ilana, 24

10. Becky, 29

11. Holly, 29

12. Catherine, 26

13. Kerry, 25

14. Samantha, 20

16. Caitlin, 28

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