The world is a tough place. Doesn't it sometimes feels like it exists solely to make us all feel bad? Mean bosses, ruthless ads on TV, judgmental "friends" — it's enough to make even the most self-assured person desperately look for ways to feel better about themselves.
Because, let's be honest. It is so easy to let mean people and stressful situations get the best of you. That's precisely why it's so important to learn ways to feel better about yourself, no matter what situation you're in. This skill can come in handy when you need a quick pick-me-up before an important meeting, or a dose of self-esteem after a long and arduous day. But it's also important for your general everyday sense of well-being.
That's because self-esteem can affect pretty much every aspect of your life. According to an article on WellnessEveryday.org, "If you have healthy self-esteem, you will be less likely to blame other people for your mistakes or misfortunes. You will be able to accept criticism — and therefore more likely to learn new skills. Generally speaking, if your self-esteem is healthy, you will be most comfortable and secure forming honest relationships ... [And] you will tend to make healthy choices, and to appreciate the things that are good about your life." See? Quite the list.
So don't let the world's negativity bring you down. Keep some of these tips in mind the next time you need a little self-esteem boost.
1. Call A Loving Family Member Or Friend
If you need a quick dose of self-esteem, give a holler to someone who really cares about you. I'm talking about your mom, your best friend, your grandpa — anyone who thinks you're awesome and is willing to tell you so. Loved ones are always good for unsolicited compliments (as well as the solicited kind). So bask in their kind words, and enjoy feeling super good about yourself.
2. List All Your Accomplishments
Feeling like you've never done anything good in your life? Take a second and list out your life's accomplishments, regardless of whether they're big or small. According to Barry Davenport on the blog LiveBoldandBloom.com, you should jot down everything from winning the spelling bee in second grade, to completing your latest work project on time, as well as everything in between. Ta-da! Instant feel good vibes.
3. Wear Something That Makes You Feel Amazing
Sometimes when you look bedraggled, you can feel bedraggled, too. So go put on something that makes you feel good. It can be the stereotypical red lipstick and heels, or just your favorite T-shirt. I promise, it'll have quite the positive effect.
In fact, one recent study showed just how much clothing can change your psyche. As Jonathan O'Callaghan noted on The Daily Mail, the study followed a group of students who were asked to wear a Superman T-shirt. (Yes, the one with the giant red S on it.) This heroic clothing actually made people feel more confident, as well as physically stronger. How crazy is that? Definitely something worth keeping in mind the next time you need a confidence boost.
4. Go Out And Be Helpful
Put your own wants and needs on the back burner for just a second, and head out to help someone in need. You can do something small, like phone a lonely neighbor. Or something way bigger, such as helping out at a soup kitchen.
The benefits are win-win, because altruism really can improve your mood. "When you focus on helping someone else or promoting a cause that you believe in ... things seem to sort themselves out and your self-esteem increases," noted Ryan James Lock on EliteDaily.com.
5. Set Some Attainable Goals For Yourself
Feeling sad and directionless and full of woe? Take a second to write down your goals. Then, break them down into manageable chunks, and revel in the progress as you go. According to Kate Dwyer on TeenVogue.com, "A lot of motivational strategies ... work to improve your self-esteem, because by accomplishing tangible goals, you’re ... proving to yourself that you’re capable of exceeding expectations." Go ahead, get started and check something off your list. (Feels pretty good, am I right?)
6. Have A Little Quiet Time
Oftentimes we're overworked, overtired, or overwhelmed. When this happens, it's easy to start believing that little negative voice inside your head. So take a second to recharge, such as with a moment of meditation. According to Lock, "If done correctly, this ancient practice can have amazing effects on your mental and physical wellbeing. Give yourself some quiet time each day to look within and recognize the changes that unfold."
It can be a cold, hard world, but don't let it get to you. If your self-esteem is dropping, phone a friend, help someone in need, or take a little time for yourself. I'm sure you'll feel better about yourself in no time.