How Sex Toys Affect Your Relationship, Because Couples Who Use Vibrators Communicate More
Couples sex toys can add a lot to your sex life, but what about your relationship? While some couples find introducing sex toys into the bedroom intimidating, others look to sex toys for couples as the surefire way to heat things up in bed. But what does added pleasure do for your bond? Turns out, a lot.
When sex toy company We-Vibe launched the We-Vibe Classic, a sex toy that allows couples to enjoy it together and apart, thanks to an app that can be downloaded to your phone, the tide of sex toys changed. And now, they’ve added a new one to the mix: Sync. Sync is the world’s first adjustable couples vibrator. This, of course, is great news because, as we all know, when it comes to body parts, one size doesn’t exactly fit all.
Sync’s design allows the user to customize the product to fit in order to achieve both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Because you're in control of making Sync fit just right for you and your partner, the company says the product will be able to stay in place no matter the sex position you choose, or if you change from one position to the next. And, like their other couples products, the We-Connect app lets partners play when they’re apart; even a world apart. Sync also lets you vibe to the rhythm of your favorite music, because who hasn’t wanted to feel the vibration of Neutral Milk Hotel between their legs?
To celebrate the launch of Sync, We-Vibe recently conducted a study of 1,000 men and women, between the ages of 35 and 55, to see how sex toys affect their relationships and what they want more of in the bedroom. Here’s what they found.
1. The Majority Of People Use Sex Toys To keep Their Sex Life Spicy
According to the study, 82 percent of those surveyed make a valiant effort to keep their sex life as exciting as possible. You can’t stick to one or two positions forever and not start to get a little bored. That's where toys, for 52 percent of couples, come in to save the day.
2. Almost 50 Percent Of People Are Using Sex Toys To Liven Up Their Sex Lives
Not that you should be super surprised, because sex toys are more mainstream than ever, but the study found that 45 percent of people incorporate toys into their sex life to keep things exciting, which is great news! Not just for the sex toy industry, of course, but because toys really do enhance pleasure and sexual exploration.
3. Using Vibrators Make Couples Communicate More
Of those who participated in the study, 49 percent of couples who use vibrators report communicating often, whether it be about sex or other subjects. In contrast, of those who don’t use vibrators, only 29 percent of couples could report the same level of openness and communication.
4. Couples Who Use Sex Toys Are Better At Giving Direction To Their Partners
In addition to communicating, when it comes to great sex, couples also need to be able to give direction. Twenty-nine percent of couples who use vibrators have zero qualms about giving their partner directions in bed. As for those who don’t use vibrators, only 17 percent are able to comfortably guide their partners in the right direction.
5. Just The Act Of Buying A Sex Toy May Increase Communication
According to the study, buying a sex toy — any type of sex toy — is connected with more communication between partners. I mean, if you’re making the purchase together, you do need to be pretty open about what you want and what you don’t want. The survey found that 51 percent of those who bought sex toys talk “often” or “very often” about sex, whereas only 28 percent of those who have not bought a sex toy could attest to communicating about sex.
6. Most Couples Rely On New Positions To Keep Sex Exciting
Although there are those couples (52 percent) who will throw sex toys into the mix to keep things spicy, most just stick to new sex positions. According to the study, 77 percent of couples try to make sex “more exciting” by trying different positions.
7. The Minority Of Couples Felt Their Sex Lives Could Be Improved
For 38 percent of respondents, more sex would make their sex lives better. But for those who were content with the amount of sex they were having, what they really wanted was change and better quality sex. Of those surveyed 28 percent wanted better sex with their partner and 28 percent wanted to “change” sex with their partner. As for what that “change” was, (although it might be safe to assume it was to make it more exciting), the respondents didn’t say.
8. Over 60 Percent Of Couples Think More Foreplay Is The Way To Go
For 62 percent of couples, the most exciting way to make things more fun in the bedroom is by extending foreplay. Although the study didn’t say how long these couples are focusing on foreplay (although let’s really hope for at least 30 minutes), the fact is that foreplay is getting the attention it deserves. Finally.
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