The 5 Best Lesbian Sex Positions For Female Orgasm

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off-limits, and all askers remain anonymous. Now, on to today’s topic: the best lesbian sex positions for orgasm.

Q: I’m in my first lesbian relationship. I saw your article about the best positions for female orgasm, and I was hoping you could write a similar version for lesbians. My issue is I tend to get distracted when I’m trying to pleasure my partner at the same time she’s pleasuring me, so I’d love positions where one of us can be the focus.

A: Thanks for the awesome question! Most of the positions from the original article can work for women who have sex with women. Some of them necessitate strap-on usage (which not all women enjoy) but Sideways Straddle can be a lot of fun without a dildo. Let’s jump right into five lesbian-specific sex positions, with an emphasis on letting one partner do the receiving!

1. Reclining

How to do it: Lie down on your back, propped up with some pillows. Put your feet flat on the bed. Your partner can crawl between your legs and focus all her attention on you.

This position works well for almost any activity you can think of. Your partner can sit between your legs and finger you, or she can lay down on her stomach and go down on you. She can also use a vibrator on your clitoris or inside of you. Or she can don a strap-on and go for good ol’ missionary.

Why it works: This is the easiest position for relaxing and receiving. All you have to do is get comfortable, lay back, and enjoy the attention!

Variations to try: This is such a simple position, but there are lots of ways you can adjust to find what works for you. You can try putting pillows under your hips or back to change the angle of your body. Try pulling your legs further apart or closer together. Or try resting one leg on your partner’s shoulder. She can easily take a break from focusing on you to come up for kisses or to pay attention to your breasts.

2. Spooning

How to do it: Have both of you lay on your sides, facing the same direction. Your lady can wrap her arm around your waist and finger your clitoris. Or she can scoot her arm under your top leg and touch you from behind. This is also a great position for some anal play with fingers or a toy. And of course, it’s a fun one if you’re using a strap-on.

Why it works: Since you’re the little spoon, there’s not much for you to do besides lap up the attention. Some women need to have their legs closed tightly together in order to reach orgasm, and this position allows you to get your muscles nice and tense.

Variations to try: This position is all about finding the most enjoyable angle for you and the easiest reach for her. If you’re of differing heights, you may need to scoot around a bit to help her reach. You may want to try bending forward at the hip to give her better access from the back. Or you can try turning partially onto your back or stomach. You can also raise one leg in the air, and have either her or you hold on to it, or wrap it around her legs.

3. Sitting

How to do it: Sit on the edge of a sofa or chair, and have your partner kneel between your legs. She can use her fingers or mouth on you, or both simultaneously! She can use her free hand to stroke your breasts and neck and caress your cheek.

Why it works: This is a really comfortable position for the giving partner, so it’s a great one to try out if you tend to take a while to orgasm. You won’t have to worry about your partner getting tired or uncomfortable, so you can focus all of your attention on feeling good!

Variations to try: If you’re on a bed, you can lie back all the way, or prop yourself up on some pillows. You can also rest one or both legs on her shoulders.

4. Kneeling Reach-Around

How to do it: Both of you get on your knees. Your partner kneels behind you, with her body pressed against yours. She reaches around your waist and fingers you clitoris or uses a vibrator on it. She can use her other hand to hold you tightly, grab your ass, breasts, or neck, or pull your hair.

Why it works: This position most closely imitates the angle you probably use when you masturbate, so it’s bound to feel great! It can be very passionate and intense.

Variations to try: This can be a hot position to use outside of the bedroom. Try doing it up against a wall, with both of your hands bracing it for leverage, or up against a sofa, with your arms resting on the cushions. You could also try a more bent-over variation on a (carpeted!) staircase. If you’re into kink, she can also tie your hands behind your back. If you’re of similar heights, you can even do this standing.

5. 'Weak In The Knees'

How to do it: Have your partner lie flat on her back. Stand up on the bed, and carefully place one foot on either side of her head. Gently lower yourself down onto your knees, so that your clitoris hovers right over her mouth. This position is best for oral sex, but she can also use her fingers or a sex toy in your vagina or ass. She’ll have one or both hands free to hold your hips or caress your butt.

Why it works: This is an extremely sexy position! You can control the pressure by pulling your body away or pressing down. It’s also really easy on the giving partner, since they’re just flat on their back, so it’s another great position to use if you ever feel anxious about taking too long. Plus, orgasms in this position can feel super intense. It will bring a whole new meaning to “weak in the knees”!

Variations to try: You can try crouching on your feet instead of your knees, but make sure you have something to hold onto. You can also try turning around so that you’re facing her feet instead of her head. But honestly, the standard version this position is so hot that you don’t need any variations!

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