The Sites 28 Women Masturbate To, Because Porn Isn't Just For Dudes Anymore

MILFORD, CT - AUGUST 10: A customer walks across a rug with a Penthouse logo at the Penthouse Boutique August 10, 2003 in Milford, Connecticut. The Penthouse Boutique, which is not owned by the financially troubled magazine, is indicative of a new kind of mainstream adult sex shop that is proliferating across the United States. With bright lights, a game and book section and a young and attractive sales staff, stores like the Penthouse Boutique are attempting to take the taboo away from pornography stores. The store, which lies in wealthy suburban Connecticut, sells everything from hardcore sex magazines to bedroom furniture that promises to enhance one's sex life. (Photo by Spencer Platt/Getty Images)
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When I was first figuring out what sex was, I found a book on my very feminist, very sex-positive mom’s shelf in the closet, titled My Secret Garden. It was a compilation of women’s sexual fantasies, published during the height of the women’s lib movement in 1973. There was a men’s version too, although I can’t remember the name of it anymore. I do remember that both of those books got a lot of use during my teenage years — a time before smartphones and laptops. Hey, the only computer in our house was in a common room! There was no way I was going to explore sex on that thing.

That was in the early 2000s, and in the decade-and-a-half since, the possibilities for seeking out new sexual fantasies have become practically endless. Short stories. Videos. Magazines. GIFs. Twilight. Gone are the days when girls would have to stumble upon erotic parts of their mother’s novels and devour them night after night under the covers. Ladies looking to explore the world of BDSM, dive into centaur fantasies, or get an idea of what a gang bang might be like have a plethora of options available quite literally at their fingertips.

While it’s commonly accepted that women prefer written erotica while men prefer visual stimulation, the highly visual nature of the Internet may be changing that. I did an informal survey of women (and other folks with vaginas) to see what websites they masturbate to. You might be surprised by how many don’t conform to any stereotype. 

1. Sarah, Age Not Given

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn, Youjizz

Why do you like it/them?

Not much, but the giant selection is nice.

2. Claire, 30

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Being able to choose easily through categories, and the fact that a lot of the videos aren't overproduced.

3. lsbp, 41

What sites do you masturbate to?

FetLife

Why do you like it/them?

Free, pics of people I know or liked by friends, lots of body types, and real people.

4. Alli, 31

What sites do you masturbate to?

Youjizz.com, literotica, RedTube

Why do you like it/them?

Lots of options to choose from depending on mood, loads fast.

5. ANE, 56

What sites do you masturbate to?

None

Why do you like it/them?

No online stimulus, thank you.

6. T, 25

What sites do you masturbate to?

Literotica, very occasionally other video porn sites, but so infrequently I can't name any.

Why do you like it/them?

I like to read erotica, and don't know where to find video porn that doesn't make me nervous about computer viruses.

7. Jade, 26

What sites do you masturbate to?

PornHub, mostly

Why do you like it/them?

It's dirty. 

8. LJ, 27

What sites do you masturbate to?

Kink and YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

I can trust that they don't have viruses, is the biggest reason. I love all of the varieties of kink, and YouPorn has a lot of categories. 

9. Freebird, 42

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn, and most recently, MomXXX.com

Why do you like it/them?

YouPorn has a lot of variety in terms of categories ... but the women on MomXXX look like me, and are often being f*cked by age-appropriate men!

10. Flavia, 33

What sites do you masturbate to?

Tumblr

Why do you like it/them?

Good-quality images, and non-normative.

11. Amanda, 40

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Easy to find more "real" people.

12. S, 36

What sites do you masturbate to?

Wikipedia, Wank DB

Why do you like it/them?

Closeups of male ejaculation.

13. Sparkle, 45

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Variety. The ability to search categories depending on my mood (also, I don't know of many other porn sites!!).

14. Kat, 31

What sites do you masturbate to?

Xshare 

Why do you like it/them?

I like the categories.

15. FairyGirl, 44

What sites do you masturbate to?

The Worst Drug

Why do you like it/them?

I can switch images easily, and it's free and easy to use.

16. Eileen, 54

What sites do you masturbate to?

Literotica 

Why do you like it/them?

Variety of stories; can always find a good one.

17. LadyA, 24

What sites do you masturbate to?

Tumblr, PornHub, xHamster

Why do you like it/them?

Tumblr has a lot of amateur stuff which I like. Easy to find blogs catered to your taste, and it snowballs through other blogs, and you can "like" them to save them for later. I'm often redirected to PornHub and xHamster through Tumblr, and have found a good bit of amateur stuff there, too. 

18. Brandy, 31

What sites do you masturbate to?

4chan

Why do you like it/them?

Not a lot of stupid talking, easy to find what I like (weird stuff) in condensed format and discuss it with other ... fans 

19. Lucy, 31

What sites do you masturbate to?

xHamster, YouPorn, kink.com

Why do you like it/them?

Free. Lots of varied content for whatever I'm in the mood for, although I don't like how fake they often seem

20. Sarah, 42

What sites do you masturbate to?

None

21. Dani, 44

What sites do you masturbate to?

Kink.com, whatever Google gives me based on what I'm in the mood for.

Why do you like it/them?

That hot porn dude that's in everything, bondage and fetish stuff done well. I like knowing the porn stars are happy and treated well. 

22. Jagger, 28

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Free, lots and lots to pick from. 

23. Jasmine, 36

What sites do you masturbate to?

Literotica, PornHub

Why do you like it/them?

Female.

24. P., 48

What sites do you masturbate to?

Tumblr

Why do you like it/them?

I can choose the streams, and there is always something new.

25. Claudia, 26

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Lots of different categories, and feels "safer" from PC viruses.

26. Suzy, 29

What sites do you masturbate to?

PornHub

Why do you like it/them?

It has everything, and not much of a load time.

27. nullalux, 40

What sites do you masturbate to?

Literotica 

Why do you like it/them?

Text versus pictures. 

28. Ladykiller, 46

What sites do you masturbate to?

YouPorn

Why do you like it/them?

Basic porn when I'm in the mood — nuthin' fancy ;)

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