In my mind, there's nothing more exciting than a new partner. It's unchartered waters, as you fumble around and explore each other, like you've just been given a really cool gift and want to figure out exactly how it works. are they ticklish? Will they moan if I do this? Will this new person make my toes curl, in a way I always hoped someone would? So many questions! So much time to figure it all out! And, I imagine, that new partner feels the same way.
While there's nothing wrong with being in a long-term relationship, of course, the novelty in the newness of a new partner can be intoxicating, really intoxicating. That's why it feels like an addiction, because once you start falling for someone new the hormones pumping through you have the same effect on the brain as cocaine. The lust is there, tenfold, because the attachment phase has yet to set in, so, honestly, there's a good chance that when you're with someone new, you're totally insatiable. Which also means you want to have all the sex and in all the different ways you possibly can!
So, to get right down to business, here are 11 sex positions to try with a new partner.
1X Marks The Spot
How to do it: While lying down on a flat surface (a table would be awesome), lift your legs, cross them at the knees, and have your partner penetrate you from a standing position.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Honestly, despite the fact that table top sex doesn't get the love it deserves, it's really hot. There's an animalistic factor to it. Like you're so into each other, you can't even make it to the bed to have sex, which, is the case for the many new couples.
How to do it: Lying side-by-side, in the spooning position, have your partner enter you from behind. It feels soooo good.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Spooning isn't just intimate because of the cuddle factor, but it also prolongs sex. And, if this person is new, don't you want to take your time with them? Maybe even lock the door and have a sex fest for three days straight?
How to do it: Assume the position! Meaning, get on your hands and knees, so your partner can penetrate you from behind while in a kneeling position.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Studies have found that a lot of us are huge fans of doggy style. It's actually the preferred position for many. Since that's the case, how could you not have doggy style with your new partner? It's such a great position that you want to get it on the sex menu early on in the relationship.
How to do it: While facing each other, belly-to-belly, lift your top leg, swing it over your partner's hip, and let him penetrate you from there.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: This position builds intimacy and that's something you might want to explore early on with a new partner, to see if you're both on the same page when it comes to being intimate. As relationship and sex expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk, tells Bustle, “Belly-to-belly allows for full-body contact and makes sure that you look at each other during intercourse. It also gives your partner easy access to fondle your breasts, and makes it easy to kiss while you’re having sex.”
5Doggy Style With A Toy
How to do it: Get into doggy style, then add a toy to the mix.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: My thing is that it's never too early to introduce sex toys into the bedroom. Whether it's a toy created specifically for couples or your favorite vibrator, using toys can only enhance your sexual relationship.
How to do it: While lying on your sides, with your face both even with each other's pubic area, start to orally stimulate each other.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Yeah, yeah, yeah... I know that for some, 69 is the worst. In fact, I've yet to come a cross a list of women's "favorite" positions and find 69 on there. However, it's a fun position that gets you both off at the same time and, again, is pretty intimate. It's also funny when you think about it and you want to be able to laugh during sex.
How to do it: Have your partner lie down, then get on top, while straddling their hips.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: For a lot of women, being on top means they can orgasm easier because they're in control of how they move their body to stimulate their clitoris. So if you want to climax with your partner, old-school style and sans toys, then you definitely want to get on top.
How to do it: While standing and facing the wall (away from your partner), have them come up behind you penetrate you from here. Please use that wall for stability.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Similar to having sex on the table in the X Marks The Spot position, having sex while standing has the same, "We're total animals and can't get to the bed fast enough" appeal, which, as we all know, is hot AF.
9Seated Back Bend
How to do it: For this one, you can start off on top and lower down as your partner sits up.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Because look at you, you limber little show off! You're basically giving your new partner a look into all the fun things ahead.
How to do it: (Yes, I know this is the third doggy position on the list, but since it's a favorite, that's just the way it has to be.) Starting in doggy position, have your partner sort of move up, while you both lower yourself down onto your stomachs.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: Since this is my one of my favorites, if not my absolute most favorite, I have to put this on the list. Every time I meet someone new, to whom I'm sexually attracted, it's this position that crosses my mind and I can't wait to try it with them. It feels good, is really intimate, and an easy way to make doggy style even better.
How to do it: Pick a comfy spot and start to masturbate. Have your partner do the same, but make sure you're in plain view of each other.
Why you want to try it with a new partner: In addition to being intimate, more than anything, mutual masturbation is a learning session for both you and your partner. You're not just telling them what you want, but you're actually showing them. I strongly feel this is a very important position to cover early on in any relationship.
Although there's a very good chance that you'll make your way through far more positions with your new partner, because new partners are all about experimenting and exploring, these 11 positions are a great place to start.