21 Sober First Date Ideas Where Your Personality Can Really Shine

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We live in a society that far too often uses alcohol as a crutch. This is so much the case that the idea of a sober first date can seem a bit terrifying for those who drink. As a society, we've become reliant on alcohol to loosen us up and relax us, and there's no place where that feels more necessary than a first date. But it doesn't have to feel this way; first dates without any alcohol can actually be a good idea.

"Sober first dates are a good way to test someone’s intentions and to see if you are on the same wavelength with your wants," Randi Newton, an addiction and recovery assistant and contributor to The Temper, tells Bustle. "If someone says no to a sober date, it could indicate that they are looking to get physical and nothing more than that; they are considering their needs over possibly getting to know someone."

During a sober first date, things are clearer, you understand each other better, and get to see your date (and yourself!) being real because there's nothing to hide behind. It's all right there in front of you.

Whether you're sober or are just trying to keep your dating life sober, here are 21 sober first date ideas to try.