Have you ever had a moment, when you're having sex with someone new and you realize a position you've done with loads of other times feels completely different? Even if you've been doing a position forever, you can suddenly find that there's a totally different way of going about it— and that can be a great thing. Because we can get into habits of doing positions in a way that's totally underwhelming.
Now, it can also happen because one of you is inexperienced— which is totally fine! I've certainly been there. If that's the case, it's important to move slow. “Although it might be easy for you to initiate and establish the lead when it comes to sex, see if you can resist and allow for some space for your less experienced partner to take the lead,” Dr. Kat Van Kirk, sex therapist and resident sex expert for Adam and Eve tells Bustle. “This will help them feel more comfortable and give them some confidence.”
But no matter what your experience level, if you find that you're either not enjoying a position your partner loves or finding it uncomfortable, there's a chance you may need to rethink how you're doing it. Not every position works for everyone— and that's totally fine — but it may be worth it to experiment with a position before you give up on it: