You sometimes hear that only a quarter of people with vaginas consistently orgasm through intercourse alone. What you hear about less often is that many not only don't orgasm but don't feel much at all during vaginal penetration. This is actually really common and not a problem unless it bothers you. But it also doesn't destine you for a lifetime of pleasure-less intercourse. While the vagina doesn't have as much sensitivity as the clitoris for many people, it can be an erogenous zone if you learn how to touch it pleasurably.
First of all, though, if you're experiencing pain during intercourse, that is an issue worth addressing. It could point toward a medical issue, overly deep penetration, or insufficient arousal. "If woman isn’t fully aroused to have sex, she won’t be wet and sex might hurt," NYC-based intimacy expert and relationship coach Lia Holmgren tells Bustle. "There are different reasons for painful sex, and it can be anywhere from lack of lubricants to muscle tightness. Of course, there are also more complicated medical reasons. If you are having pain with penetration, as boring as it might sound, the classic missionary is the best position to go. Or woman on top, where she can choose the angle of the position and speed or depth."
But if the issue is a lack of sensation altogether, here are some strategies to feel more pleasure.