It is easy to forget, while trudging from one underwhelming Tinder date to another, cheeks sore from fake laughing, eyes strained from trying to make out your date’s features in yet another dimly-lit wine bar, your emaciated bank account pleading to be left alone, that technology has in fact fixed a lot of dating problems.
Sure, we’ve all read the think-pieces bemoaning the fetid swamp that is modern dating — apps are impersonal, people ghost and breadcrumb and just generally behave poorly... Reading these, it is easy to throw your hands up in despair and proclaim how much better dating *used* to be, when everything was sepia-toned and suitors were gallant and made grand, romantic gestures (they had the time and energy to do this because they weren’t bogged down by things like “equal rights”).
But before you start researching how to build a time machine, consider the limitations of old-timey dating. Your dating pool was pretty much limited to whoever was in your immediate vicinity, or someone your grandma set you up with; you had to talk to people ON THE PHONE, which is easily a top 5 stress-inducing activity; and when you made plans, you just had to cross your fingers and pray your date would actually show up.
So yes, technology has shaped modern dating, occasionally for the worse, but let’s take a moment to consider how it’s shaped it for the better.