There are many things people say that can insult others, even if it's in an offhand or joking way. And when it comes to men, some may not be as open about letting people know they are offended. These include comments about their height, weight, job status, and even parenting skills — though you might not know it by how they react.
Thanks to the way we define masculinity in our society, it can be easy to assume men won't be as affected by the things people say to them. Generally, society conditions men to be stoic people who, as a result, can't be easily hurt by others. And yet nothing could be further from the truth.
"You never know if you are talking to a man for whom criticism in these areas cuts deep," Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. "He may not show it but your words may indeed cut to the bone."
And that's why it's important to bear in mind that, regardless of someone's gender, it's always a good idea to think twice about how a comment may be received. "We have this false belief that words can’t do damage," Dr. Klapow says. "They can. They do. You never know how badly you may hurt someone."
Here, eight men share the comments that have affected them the most.