I was cheated on in 2015 and I still feel pretty foolish when I think about it. No one wants to be cheated on, but whether or not we like it, people sometimes cheat. It happens. Sometimes there’s not one specific reason as to why people want to cheat on their partners; sometimes it's a drunken mistake. Sometimes there’s a very specific reason, like the love between the two people has died. And other times, it’s a calculated thing; something in which the cheater has decided they want to do for any number of reasons, from revenge to hoping to end the relationship to anything in between. Cheating is complicated.
"Cheating and it's consequences are one of the most devastating moments in a relationship," relationship coach and psychic medium Melinda Carver tells Bustle. "It turns your whole world upside-down when you find out your partner is cheating, [and] you begin to look at everything in your relationship as a lie, and your self-esteem plummets."
But if you're thinking that maybe, just maybe, you want to cheat on your partner, here are some questions to ask yourself as to why you’re about to do it, because you may realize something is missing from your relationship or that you're taking the easy way out of a more complicated issue.