7 Sex Toys That Will Teach You About Your Body And What You Want In Bed
I think we can agree that sex toys are a lot of fun. But they're more than that: They can also be educational — especially if they were designed specifically to teach you about your body. Sex toys can teach you how to please yourself and your partner, introduce you to kinks, and elicit different forms of pleasure you didn't even know you were capable of.
"Sex toys can actually be a unique, and pleasurable, way to learn more about your body via stimulation and experimentation," Alicia Sinclair, CEO of b-Vibe and Le Wand, tells Bustle. "My goal when designing sex toys is to optimize pleasure through the product design and the resulting user experience. That means, before I begin to develop a product, I spend months researching not only the targeted area of stimulation, but also what users (or potential users) might know about those areas of the body." And Sinclair isn't the only one to think this way.
I'd venture that most of us didn't get the best sex education in school. But fortunately, some awesome sex toys have picked up where school left off. Here are some sex toys that'll help you learn what you like, what you don't like, and what your body's capable of.
1Dame Products' Eva
This vibrator, which attaches to your vulva and can stay on during sex, can help you and your partner pinpoint your clitoris — because that's where the top rests on when you put it on. It can also measure the distance between your clitoris and vagina, which predicts how easily you orgasm during intercourse (don't worry, most vagina-owners can't). If you're one of the few who can, the distance between your clit and vagina will be about half of Eva or less.
2b-Vibe's Rimming Plug
Every b-Vibe product comes with a "Guide to Anal Play," so if you haven't experienced the joys of anal pleasure, they're a great place to start. The rimming plug vibrates to mimic the motions of rimming, which can help you start off your anal play journey with pleasure and minimize pain.
If your goal is to learn more about your individual sexual response patterns, there's no better toy than the Lioness. This smart vibrator records your vaginal contractions so you can actually look at a graph depicting your orgasm. You and your partner can use it to figure out things like which techniques work best for you and when in your cycle sex feels best.
4Njoy Pure Wand
If you want to discover your G-spot and/or learn whether you're capable of female ejaculation (though if you're not, don't feel like you're missing out), this toy has the perfect shape for it. Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and creator of Finishing School, an online orgasm course for women, recommends massaging your G-spot with this toy while rubbing your clitoris if you want to see if you can ejaculate.
5Chakrubs' Rose Wand
Chakrubs claim to teach you not just about your body but also about your soul. Each stone contains a different energy meant to bring out different qualities in the user. The rose wand is a great one to start with because it has a curved shape that stimulates the G-spot and rose quartz stone that "speaks directly to the Heart Chakra, dissolving emotional wounds, fears and resentments, and circulates a Divine loving energy throughout the entire aura." It sounds out there, but if it does work, that's pretty incredible.
You may have heard that doing Kegel exercises can lead to better sex, but few of us are actually taught how to do them — and as it turns out, they involve a lot more than just squeezing your muscles. Elvie will guide you through the steps and prompt you to squeeze with exercises on an app, so you're basically playing a video game with your vagina.
"Kegel health is important for sexual pleasure, and can be especially crucial when it comes to orgasm," Marin tells Bustle. "The Elvie app allows you to see the strength of your muscles as you exercise them real-time, which is pretty cool!"
It looks like learning can be pretty fun after all, especially when orgasms are involved. BRB while I go study.