Is love ever enough to sustain a happy, healthy, and long-term relationship? The reality is, you can love someone so much, but if your partner does not make an effort, it may be time to ask yourself when enough is enough. According to psychotherapist and relationship coach, Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC, there are three elements to relationship chemistry. "For a partner to be enough, you need to have some measure of each," she says.
The three elements that make up chemistry in your relationship are physical attraction, friendship, and intellectual stimulation. For instance, if you are physically attracted to a person, but find conversation lacking or awkward, you're always going to feel like there's a piece missing. Maybe they're just too serious all the time, while you like a little more laughter. Or maybe you miss the close friendship aspect to a relationship. While you may get along just fine, you're not really in sync.
"It’s not necessary to have the same amount of all of these elements," Coleman says. "But if one part is missing, it will feel like 'something' is missing, and you will find yourself wishing you could relate to [your partner] like you did with [an ex], or couple you know."
So here are some signs that experts say your partner might not be enough for you, even if you love them.
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