7 Signs You've Lost Interest In Your Partner, Even If You Love Them

As we all know, long-term relationships are never usually the same as it was in the beginning. All the newness and novelty wears off in time, and for some, that can mean interest fades as well. It can be difficult to tell that you've lost interest in your partner if you still love them. But just because you may still have feelings, it doesn't mean you're invested in the relationship.

"Oftentimes, losing interest in your partner has to do with growth, or a lack thereof," Katherine Shorter​, marriage counselor and founder of Yoked, tells Bustle. According to her, people often lose interest in long-term partners when one person outgrows or out-matures the other. Basically, when a couple's goals or desires in life are no longer aligned, one person will quickly lose interest in trying to bring the other person back into alignment and "they will eventually seek out someone who has a parallel outlook on the future."

But according to Shorter, it's not always a lost cause. "My husband and I have been married for over six years and we still check in with each other at least once a quarter to see what our goals are at the moment, for the future, and how we can work together to achieve them," she says. "Even being married, our goals and interests are going to change and we have to keep communication open to know that we are still in alignment with each other. If we're not, we figure out what we need to do to get back there."

So here are some signs that you may have lost interest in your relationship, even if you love your partner, according to experts.